On Friday my daughter Sarina woke up crying. Usually, she is content with a positive attitude. But lately, as her goal to live independently feels out of reach, she struggles with her self-confidence.
Self-doubt moved in. She is nervous about her future just like I am and worried about what the two weeks of summer school at Exceptional Minds will bring. It has the potential to hold a future for her.
Hope is a skyscraper right now.
What if itâs a no? I donât know.
Not knowing and piggyback being o.k. with not knowing is our path. In reality, weâre are all on it. But security feels damn good right? Yes! I’d love a good dose at the moment!
âHave mercy,â I say to the sky and âgive me more clarity. And deliver to my girl!â
đĄKnowing we will deal with whatever comes our way.
Iâm happy my husband was home. He helped Sarina to see what’s already happening in her life like her âHats with a Missionâ project and her college education. But we know what’s missing and that her heart lies in movie making.
Later on the way to the car, we shared a little more about how self-doubt feels, and I saw her be at ease again.
Here is one of our đ car conversations.
Listen in, Sarina is real. She’s never wearing a mask. An inspiration to me!
Happy to announce her new title for me: Self -Cure Doubt Coach!
So, what to do when self-doubt demands a seat at the table?
For most of us, self-doubt like other limiting beliefs let us walk around with question marks.
What? How? When? Where? Why?
And it shows up in our body. Low energy, moodiness, coach-potato-desire in the middle of the day, hunched shoulders and so on.
I become reactive, less tolerant, needier. Aches in my shoulders show up. Headaches.
My # 1 cure is to pause. # 2 Move – anything goes. # 3 Share. If no one is around, putting it on paper counts.
I don’t do well with silent suffering. I do know self-doubt shrinks when I interrupt my thought pattern. When I pause and listen. Self-doubt likes noise and company.
If you only have a moment, but be honest, you always have more than one you must pause to feel whatâs going on. Hop on a
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Pause – Breaths- Feel
Accept what you notice…” aha, doubt is present!”
Notice breathing – Flip the Switch
Breathe out doubt
Breathe in present moment energy
Repeat
Hug what you have!
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It works.
Itâs a practice.
Itâs the lifestyle you get to choose.
Self-care-love is no luxury!
Itâs a daily commitment. I know you and I deserve it!
Self-doubt is a beast; donât let it win.
đˇAlways with Love,
Manuela
