Today I have two whispers for you. I feel they are holding hands complementing each other:
Forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past.
If your compassion does not include yourself it is incomplete.
both by Jack Kornfield.
“Forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past.”I have this quote on my wall, and it caught my eyes today.
I find it to be the most important practice to do if we want not to be hunted by past events or fall prey to stirring old stuff up when we are triggered.
I took a breath.
The thought often makes me move back in time to past events. But yesterday or even the moment before I sat down to write this belongs to the past too I thought.
As I sat down as I do every day to do my Self Presence Exercise* before I start a project (I need to share with you – I promise I will!) the most immediate past kept popping up, and I used Jack Kornfields words to forgive myself.
*Self Presence Exercise is part of my collection of 365 Tiny Islands, each island offering a moment to pause and refresh. Stay tuned, it’s in the works.
I had a very rough morning with my girl. She pushes boundaries, doesn’t understand them and triggers me out of my favorite state of being – which is to be relaxed and joyful. But, I snapped at her. I lost it with her. I was unnecessarily loud and unfair. It was painful and ugly. And of course, I’m just a mother having enough. So I forgave myself and moved on. And I remembered these important words:
If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete. again by Jack Kornfield
Without compassion for ourselves, how can we have compassion for others, right?
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Manuela Rohr is a writer and Yoga teacher/therapist BDY/EYU, C-IAYT. With roots in Germany she now lives with her husband and daughter in Santa Rosa, CA. She is the mother of a micro preemie girl and shares her healing journey in her blogs and teachings. She shares her transformational Yoga and Mindfulness lessons in workshops for special needs moms like her and private sessions.