THERE ARE NO ORDINARY MOMENTS!
I took this picture today of our daughter Sarina on her morning walk. She has struggled lately with a lot of things, not getting up and in turn not having time to walk is a big one for her.
This was her first walk for a few weeks.
Everyone benefits from walking. In Sarina’s life attention and present moment awareness go hand in hand with the rhythm of walking. And the deeper breath. One cannot walk up a hill with the head in the clouds. She has to pay attention to her steps. Easy? Not when you have severe attention deficit.
But – and that’s a hard truth, if she’s not self-motivated, it’s not happening. Her life becomes an obstacle course against time. I have seen this truth but have to surrender to the fact that she is now 28 and I can’t win every battle. Believe me I try!
I have no choice but to let go. It’s a difficult ride for me. I keep failing every day and I keep going. And keep learning.
“Acceptance is a small, quiet room,” says Cheryl Strayed.
So, this was heaven for me! One moment that has the power to erase a chain of frustrations in my life as a special needs parent.
As I watched her hike up the hill, the sky and the trees were hugging her and I thought: There are no ordinary moments. *
It’s easy to agree in a situation like this. Not so when beauty is absent, and we are hitting a wall.
Many people live with limitations. Some visible some not. The path of a special parent is humbling like for all care takers. Decline of health or depression to name a few also put the breaks on.
Special needs parenting is a life sentence. It’s not going to go away. We can fall into victim mode or learn to ride our horse instead.
This week I’ll pin this photo on my desk. Relax the grip, breathe, accept and honor the present moment. Want to join? Print the photo or write yourself a note. It works.
👣 No time for a walk?
Here is a Tiny Island** about a one-minute practice you can do on the spot including sitting down. If you can’t move, visualize yourself doing it.
CONNECTING BREATH WITH MOVEMENT
- Sit or stand. Feel your feet on the ground. One hand on your heart, one on your belly.
- Feel your breath. Breathe out – pause – breathe in – pause. Effortless. Three times.
- Inhale to the count of two, then exhale to the count of two
- Walk in place with your hands swinging by your side; inhale, two, exhale two
- Once you feel the rhythm of breathing to your steps, increase your count.
- Inhale three steps, exhale three steps.
- Inhale four steps, exhale four steps. Increase the number of steps to a comfortable limit.
- Now work your way back down. If you got to six steps go back to inhale five, exhale five… inhale four, exhale four…etc.
- Stand or sit still. Hands on heart and belly, feel your heart beat and watch your breath slow down. Notice exhale – pause – inhale -pause.
NO ORDINARY MOMENTS!
You can do this also in gentle running. The key is… do it! Enjoy it! Be grateful to your body moving and breathing.👣Love always,
PS: *Dan Millmann wrote a book called “No Ordinary Moments”. It’s a peaceful warrior’s guide to daily life. I love this book like all of the books he wrote. It teaches us to live a life that puts you in the driver’s seat.
PPS: **Tiny Islands is a project I’m working on. To create more breaks, or even micro breaks in my day to fill up my cup. Using the tools from my yoga practice and life with my special daughter I’m collecting THREE-HUNDRED AND SIXTY-FIVE, yes 365 of them! And share them in a book with you. 2019 hear me roar😇.
PPPS: Remember… forgive yourself and everyone…