This week’s Wednesday Whisper had the theme “stop complaining” and a 24h challenge. I promised to share my experience. If you missed it, find the whisper here:
Awareness is it!
My experience 😇.
Besides the tips I shared in the whisper, I had a stack of stickies with 24 written on them in my fanny pouch and set the timer every hour. When it beeped, I paused, took a breath, got one sticky out, reflected, and made a note. Did I complain?
My results in sixteen hours:
11 😁 for no complaint
4 😑 for a silent complaint like 🙄
1 😕 for a solid complaint
Some research to make my point:
- Complaining rewires your brain for negativity
- Most people complain once a minute during a typical conversation.
- Neurons that fire together, wire together. When we repeat a behavior, our neurons branch out to each other to ease the flow of information. Our brain loves efficiency. The next complaint can speed along, and you might not even notice it.
- When you complain, your body releases the stress hormone cortisol. Cortisol shifts us into the flight-or-fight mode. STRESS! ALARM! But – you’re most likely not escaping an attack when you complain right? No, you stay put, perhaps complain some more and live with a miserable feeling and energy.
My truth: I noticed several silent complaints. Each had the potential to put me in a lousy mood. Does the computer refuse to follow my commands? The person on the other line makes my eyes roll to Russia? Someone close by triggers you? It was all small stuff.
Win: I noticed it and nipped it in the bud immediately, accepted the situation with an it-is-what-it-is and it-will-not-last-forever-attitude.
Do: Switch to gratefulness for what you have. Accept. Lead the way. Let go. Repeat this practice until you’re better at it. Watch for an hour a day what you do. Use a challenging moment or situation in your day to pay attention. Breathe often!
Have another habit you’d like to get rid of? Same thing!
Up next? No complaining! What we feed grows!
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Be the spark!💡